African American Hair Help! Help ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Kay, I'll just tell you alittle bit about my hair. My mom says I have good hair(thick and strong)but it's breaking off. I started my hair growing thingy in late March. I cut my ends and got a treatment and yesterday April 30th, I did it again. My hair is thick and about at the bottom of my neck. it's short but not so short to where I can't put it in a ponytail. It gets really dry when I wash it and don't put anything in it but when it has something in it it's really soft and somewhat shiny. I perm my hair(I've been using "Just For Me" since I was about 4 or 5 and just started Olive Oil like on December 12th; I permed it again before my bday, March 12) and when it's not permed it'd wavy at the roots and crinkly everywhere else cause there's still perm in there. The guy I went to, at the salon, says I have breakage in the front and I don't think so cuz my hair has always been short in the front but whatever. What product can I use to help and prevent that. I also wanna know some products for dry, damaged hair. I'm going to continue to trim my ends every month and when I get some money I'll get deep conditioners every two weeks. I don't wash my hair alot, maybe every three weeks! I put my hair in ponytail and I'm going to stop that. My hair isn't curly, but I don't really know how to tell but if you can tell by the roots when it's not permed then my hair would be waaavy.Without anything in my hair, after washing, it's soft and poufy. And without blowdrying it's wavy and alittle curly. Kay, I hope i told you enough about my hair. My Goal is that by the time i'm 19 or 20, I have long, thick hair down my back almost to my (lol that's long). I don't have to have it that long but hey whatever. I don't want long hair because I think thats the only type of beautiful hair but because I can do so much with it, and I can't handle short hair. I can have it wavy or curly, straight or just normally what it is. What product can I use. and I know that what I eat affects my hair, I've been drinking ALOT of water lately and eating oranges. I know not everyone has the same hair but my friend cut her hair in seventh grade and it was soooo short and my hair was longer than hers and now in 9th grade her hair is soooooooooooooo long and pretty, and she has that Guyanese type hair and i'm haitian and i don't know wat that has to do wit anything, so, yeah. She uses Dr. Miracles and Super Girl Grease and stuff. What can I do to make my hair grow and yeah, I know it takes patience, sooo PLZ HELP ME!!!!! Thankyou and I don't wanna go natural, instead I'll perm my hair every 3 or 4 months to check growth. so yeah, bye!